The Yin and Yang of Golf and Hockey

 The definition of Yin and Yang:

it means... Opposite but interconnected

Golf is all about competing with yourself.

Dedicated golfers are intense. They want to get better ... how do I break 90? For most, chasing a lower golf score is the goal but it can be very elusive.

Legendary St. Andrews Scotland

Golf mates know how difficult it is. When a foursome hits the links (a Scottish term created by the game's inventor), the group may play with a range of scores. Two players in the group may regularly score 100, and two may regularly score 90 or lower. But the scoring difference and ability levels don't seem to matter to golf/buds. 

When I started to play the game, my partners were all much better than me and I noticed something that I think is rare and may only apply to golf. They all complimented me with everything I did, particularly when teeing off.

"Nice swing". "You really got a hold of that one". "You are still in a good position". There were different compliments attached to almost everything I did even though I was awful and lost 13 balls on the first 9 holes. It was very encouraging of them but I felt a little embarrassed accepting compliments for my shortcomings. I surmised that this is somehow part of the game ... keep complimenting a player even when it's not deserved so he won't get discouraged and give it up

Golf Buds

Is it part of the game's appeal? 

To get you to keep coming back because you know your mates understand how difficult a sport it is and douse you with false praise to help you feel better about the financial investment you made in clubs and a bag and shoes and shirts with the little alligator on the pocket and, oh yes, those green's fees?

You might call golf a genteel sport.

What about hockey?

In a recent shinny game, there was a player who was better than everyone else. The score was tied. Near the end of the match, he raced to center, squeezed between two defencemen, feigned like he was going to fire a wrist shot, gave a head fake that moved the goalie out of position and softly slid the puck into the empty side of the net. As infamous hockey commentator, Don Cherry would say ... that was a beauty, eh?

As he skated by our bench, the player beside me stood up and yelled ... "that was a horseshit goal and you're a horseshit player". Incidentally, the shouter was the goal scorer's best buddy.

Some guys are magicians with that little disc

That's hockey. 

It ain't a genteel sport.

It's understood that the horseshit comment was just high-praise. We all understand that his move was a thing of beauty and something we wish we all could do.

Hockey Dressing Rooms ... Approach with Caution

And, for those not privy to hockey dressing-room conversations, you must know that the horseshit comment most definitely carried over into that room as the players fought for time to be included in the post-game analysis. Hockey players completely understand that trash-talking each other is just part of it and would most definitely feel left out if some of the attention didn't go their way. 

In hockey, a joke at someone else's expense is the order of the day and sarcasm is encouraged.

When in the room, a player should always avoid requesting help to buy their wife the perfect birthday gift and don't stick their necks out by sharing a stock tip or offering their expert opinion on some matter of great importance ... the room's response to this expert opinion action will be noisier and nastier if you happen to be an engineer in your past life. 

The description of this scene wouldn't be completely accurate if I didn't mention that many of the dressing room conversations also contain lots of vulgar and obscene content, but this isn't the proper forum to expose this aspect of hockey chirping.

Whether you chase a little round white ball or 6 and a half ounces of vulcanized rubber it's interesting to note the significant difference in the two sports.

With one, you'll get a good job... pat-on-the-back especially when you don't deserve it, and with the other, you get ya ... that-was-good-but-don't-get-too-full-of-yourself when you do something well. 

Last week I played with a hockey player who struggles with the skills needed to play. He told me he was going golfing in the afternoon. I asked him, with a straight face, "Are you as good at golf as you are at hockey?". He howled at the question -- a sign to me, he wasn't offended and no harm done. 

There are lots of studies and clinical evidence to support the importance of camaraderie built through sport. Many studies highlight the importance of the banter and nonsense that goes on in sports dressing rooms, and some say that interaction between buddies is as important as playing the sport itself.

Note to self ... pay attention to the "Yin and Yang":

when playing golf, don't tell a golf mate that his golf slacks or shirt is too loud or he has a Dollar Store putter, and when playing hockey, don't tell your centerman he's a gifted stick-handler ... "opposite but interconnected" 

Comment below if you wish. It was written by a hockey player, so sarcasm is encouraged.

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